Stranger Friends

" We're gonna be best friends forever, no time nor season would drift us apart".

The giggles echoed from Nancy's maze of a memory as she stared rather keenly at the ceiling elapsing through time. Charmed by Nora at a fragile stage in highschool when she had given John the bully a head butt of the century that had left him in a drivel state.

She had stared down at her and muttered her name

"Hi I'm Nora" as she extended a hand to lift her off the comfort of her public humiliation and saved her from being a victim.

From being a Saviour to a friend.

Its been six years and the friendship bracelets still left an urging strained reminder of their promise. But she could not part with something as precious even when the sole party of a friend had become a stranger, the bracelet was the only thing still familiar.

What had happened?

Time, distance, change and experience, all the elements of growth happened.

A philosopher defined Friendship as " a lasting bond that transcends whatever accidental or utilitarian reasons might have brought two people together in the first place".

A lasting bond? Just how long does this bond last, does it come with a manual that denotes the time limit before the other party leaves us in the pool of our own rather salty tears.

If you've been following my blog post I'm certain you sense an aura familiarity in this post in relation to one of my previous blog post titled Friends

Come seat back this is not like the other.

The concept of friendship is a colourful abyss, at moments we develop a mutual sense of compatibility and trust and burgeoning affection which is reciprocal, we develop a mutual sense of obligation and trust given.

But does this concept still exist? What exactly are these obligations? Do we live up to it?

One important element of friendship is Chemistry, by that i mean the mixture of several chemicals components on my periodic table.

Trust.               (Tu2)

Compassion   (COs)

Respect           (Re2)

Love.                (LOL)

Tolerance        (T02)

 A mixture of these elements in my test tube would result in friendship( laughs like a mad scientist with cracks of electricity clamoring around my head).

But over time the elements can be lost and hence friendship disseminated. Why?.

In our evolving lives we create bonds and sever others consciously or unconsciously. Friends become strangers and bonds becomes memories, lesson and guides. That disruption can only be caused by CHANGE, a prominent factor that can change the course of a friendship but we aren't taught to embrace the change, understand It and make positive intuitions from it.
 " Nora's changed, what more is there for us, we seem close yet so far apart,she doesn't enjoy our nights out like before or Tom's lousy party, she's slowly drifting away. Is this the end for us?"

Yes it can if you make it so, so your friend changed that doesn't mean THE END. You have to learn to adapt unless you're in a toxic relationship but if not TU2, COs, Re2, LOL and T02 shouldn't flatter, instead there should be a upgrade.

What so many people fail to realise is that if gadgets could have system upgrades, people could upgrade their relationships too.

Friendship between two parties is a matter far more of emotions than rational calculation. Emotions do not see the probability of dissemination and you rationally calculating the extent of your friendship is well....congratulations on your psychopathic journey.

Of course  there are mutual benefits and advantage, help and support that comes with the whole package, but any relationship based on this kind of motivation is rather suspicious.

Conduct a survey through your contact list, how many do you passionately call friends? How many are rationally calculated? How many are at the bottom of your chat?.

Yes we realise that there are obligations and  responsibility attached to relationships especially those of preferential upgrade from being close friends to best friends and I would admit sometimes this relationship can be exhausting as it is blissful.

We just lost our ability to communicate effectively because we are all busy, aren't we? Or need I say lazy. Sometimes we just want to be left in solitude and your circle of friends should understand that.

Communication is key to an effective friendship.

"Different people provide the friendship we need at different times in our lives, even of certain very particular friends stay the whole course".

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