FRIEND?

FRIENDSHIP, A term every existing man is familiar with, a bound formed with another individual which aren't bound by blood.
Am not here to rant all about the beauty of friendship at its finest, No am here to compromise the beautiful term you hold so dear, Just kidding. Am just going to be reflecting gathered thoughts on the term "Friendship".

We chose our friends based on several instances or intuition. And you might agree with me that the way you selected your friends in primary school wouldn't be the same way you would now, because of a variable constant: CHANGE. Over the years your perspectives about things change and you become more concerned and involved in societal issue and that molds your psychology, including your friendship.

          Let's admit we have people who still hold on to that friendship title that you just want to throw in the trash bin. Do not get worked up on such and blame yourself for not being able to relate with someone you used to relate well with, I did tell you change is inevitable. If he/she doesn't seem to accept the change and finds a way to use the chessy term " I miss the old us, I wish we could go back to the way things used to be", be sure to give the person a spank on the head real hard. If you can't be accepted  for who you're growing to be and people around you begin to complain and emit hate and become cold, that's a bloody sign to change your friends ,as you change your relationship with certain individuals change too. If you can't be accepted for how you grow mentally and your change in perspectives, you need to change the people you relate with and get those with the same mental age as you or maybe more.
     I believe we all are familiar with another term we use "fake friends" and I used to have a general view of what the majority of people assumed it to be, but over the years my perspective changed when I was buttbumped to that category.
Some people do not realize how strong the relationship is and how it affects and molds us. When we label an individual as a fake friend, what exactly do we mean?
1.  Is it in relation to the individual personality ?
2. Is it related to a past or present short coming ?
3. Or the level of relationship you have with the person ?

        If in relation to the individual personality, well I believe our friends are a reflection of ourselves or our potentially rebellious self ( doesn't make sense huh ). You select you friends based on traits you find relatable consciously or unconsciously. So that bitch in your squad is a reflection of your inner bitch (high five). So if you labelled someone fake based on their personality maybe due to a sort of exposure he/she was more accessible to that created a sort of change, but you rather keep the person close because of the benefits derived from being in a relationship with that individual, why label the person 'fake'. And sometimes we are all guilty as charged even if we say it, we think it. Even if you think we ain't thinking it, you still think about it without realizing you are (so much 'thinking').

     Like Luvvie Ajayi stated in her book, I'm judging you.
" Good friends are often our lifelines".
We all have made bad decisions on our choice of friends and it scared us but also taught us . Some people aren't even worth the friendship they are so two faced you wonder how you are even friends with them in the first place, well you became friends with one of the faces the other happen to come with the package.
- The friends you can't trust
- The competitors
- The trouble makers ( literally )
- The one that only contact you when in need.
- The ones that should work for the FBI due to their level of secrecy.
- The frenemies
- The undependable
- The ones that judges more than God
- The back bitters
- The one with enough pride to slice the devil.
(The list is endless)
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But there are still amazing compadres who make our lives better with their presence, there are also those who might be bringing down out property value- LUVVIE AJAYI.
I would leave on a sorta prescription (haha😂😂). This is to be continued. And yeah this book by Luvvie Ajayi is everything, she hit every nail on spot on the board and its so relatable.

Your one and Only Erin.